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On Tuesday I spoke to the surgeons assistant to get info for the big 14 April meeting. This is where we will meet the Dr, see the facilities, get any questions answered, set the date, and much to our surprise - the Dr will give Finley a very basic check up. Finley. We didn't plan on him being a part of this appointment. We thought it was where we, as parents, get more information on the surgery to better explain it to Finley. Gather advice on how to tell him, when to tell him, the whole lot.

Sorry Charlie, the Dr is a busy man and it's a one and done appointment.

This boils down to us having to tell Finley in a very limited amount of time. It is enevitable, this we understand but like to pretend we have more time. This is new, let us be a bit scattered. We enlisted a child psycologist to give us their opinion. We see them on Friday. (whew)

I also got information such as the length of the average hospital stay (5days), the specs of the hospital, to expect only one parent to stay each night, information about the Ronald McDonald house, pre op details...

It was way too much reality for one phone call. I found myself in the bathroom willing myself to breathe. Just breathe. I counted my breath, I inhaled deeply and exhaled the same. I dabbed the tears from my eyes and found a semblance of control. I did it! I tried the breathing thing that I teach to many and it worked. Good. To. Know.